Whenever I think of ME word now, I feel I don’t get it enough. Being a full-time mom has just taken away this privilege from me. Initially, I thought its just a phase and this ME word is too hyped I will not need it but as the time has passed I have understood the importance of it. I can tell you this is neither a hyped word nor an underserving word. We as a mom or any individual need this space.
Why is “ME” so important according to me?
A healthy mind and a strong body are very much required to take care of your child. If I am healthy and fine then only I will be able to look upon my kid in a proper manner. This ME time gives me space for that, I get time for exercise and rewind myself to take responsibility for the full day.
I get time to think about something different other than my child and thus my mind is not occupied with the same thought around the day.
Being a human I too need a change and do something which I love too(I know I love my kid and so do we all) some hobby or something which makes us happy. We should not ignore that and it’s the most important thing to do. Always remember happiness attracts happiness!
Being a mom is a journey and your responsibility is going to increase as your baby grows, so to enjoy the journey and your responsibilities it is very much required to have some time only for self and do the things which makes you happy.
A break is very much important from our regular work and this makes ME time very much important for everyone.
If you are not having some ME time or a break from your daily routine then think about it!
Belly fat is tough to go and sometimes makes us feel that it will never go. I have a body who gains most on my belly. After my pregnancy, it was too tough for me to move with a heavy body and belly which was making me so much uncomfortable. I decided to get my belly on track and lose my belly fat. Few tips which helped me in making this happen, I would like to share with you all:
I stopped taking sugar in my tea. This saved lots of calories for me. Although I do eat cakes and sweets in a measured quantity and in a moderate manner.
I started drinking almost 5 glasses of water and some days it might go up to 8 glasses. I love to have warm water and it too helps in digestion.
I decided not to eat things I don’t like and in place save some calories for the food I love to eat.
I make sure I drink some protein shake and eat 4 – 5 egg whites in a day. I am on a vegetarian diet for 3 days a week and on those days I eat only boiled vegetables and fruits.
I don’t eat grain or sweet at dinner or after 6 pm. I try to have a cup of warm milk before bed.
I exercise or walk for about 1 hour 6 days a week.
I see many blogs and apps suggesting only food cut for weight loss and they don’t suggest any form of exercise. Which is totally wrong. A healthy weight loss should include exercise and food control.
Although I have not achieved my dream tummy, I am on my way to achieving it. Always remember it takes time for belly fat to go but if you follow the plan and stick to it will go in some time.
Teenage is the most critical growth phase, as parents, we need to focus more on our kids in order to understand them. They face real concerns, between 11 and 18 years of age, on a daily basis as this is the most awkward growth stage of their lives. During this time, teens are exposed to some overwhelming external and internal struggles. They go through and are expected to cope with hormonal changes, puberty, social and parental forces, work and school pressures, and so on. Many teens feel misunderstood. Advances in technology mean today’s teens are facing issues that no previous generation has ever seen.
Some issues are not exactly new, electronic media has changed or amplified some of the struggles. We as a parent need to understand what all areas our kid needs our help and how can we make this phase of their growth smoother. Let’s see and try to understand what all problems teenagers are facing today:
The common teenage problems that teenagers face today are usually related to:
When I got my first period I was knowing nothing about it and was so scared to see the blood. Yes, normally parents miss to tell their daughters and get them ready for it. My parents were missing this knowledge and because of this, they missed to get me ready for the very important phase of my life.
Every single parent had gone through this phase during their puberty and they know how does it feel? It’s an important work for all the parents to make their child know about this change. Not only body but their thinking pattern too changes, in short, it is physical and emotional changes which indivisible go through.
Most important don’t ignore this thinking you will see what can be done once menstruation cycle starts? Let your child know about this much before. Tell her the changes which her body will go through once period cycle hits her. What should be the first thing which parents should tell their kids related to this?
How do you as a parent going to start making your child ready for this coming phase in their life?
Few tips on how to make your child ready for this phase:
Strike conversation related to the changes in their life. Take them out to their favorite place or sit with them and tell them what is puberty?
How is puberty going to affect them? Tell your child your story of Puberty and how you had dealt with that?
Tell her what the importance of the menstruation cycle?
Let them know about the changes which their body will go through, also tell them about hormonal changes which they will go through. Clear all her doubts and be very patient with her questions.
Give them some book to read and clear their understanding about it. Tell her she is strong enough to deal with it.
Give her all the moral and emotional support.
It may take a few appointments before you can make her understand completely about this but this approach will defiantly help. Secondly, it will make you more comfortable thinking your kid now understand what is going to happen instead of getting the sudden shock.
I have been raising my son alone with some help from my husband, of course, I understand how difficult is it to raise a toddler and what all a parent goes through but believe me the joy of raising a happy and healthy kid is unmatched with anything else in this world.
Some points why I will intend for a second kid?
My son will have a company during his growing age. Yes, I understand the importance of siblings. I being raised up with siblings know how important this relationship is. They taught all I need to know to survive in this world. Wherever I feel or I need I have another set of people whom I can call and depend upon. This is a different kind of love. I don’t want my son to miss this aspect of life and relationship.
I understand the importance of sharing, love, and respect. These all I learned while growing with my siblings and not in the school. Of course, we get to learn them in school too but the way we learn them with our siblings is totally different and for the lifetime.
Your kid will have an extended family after parents are no longer in the world. Yes, it’s not only about us it’s about them too. My son will have an extended family when I am not around.
Life is very unpredictable and so we should always plan in advance. Having a single child is full of risk in either way. If something goes wrong with the kid then parents have no support and vice versa is true too.
Of course, finance is one of the reasons we are not planning for a second one but nowadays the government is helping and providing basic support which is important during raising the kid.
So, think before you make your mind for not having the second kid and before its too late to plan one!
Have you ever thought of having the second child? Nowadays whoever I meet or the majority of us plan for a single child with some excuses for not having the second one. I got a chance to study some of the cases and understand what makes them take this decision and their reasoning behind it.
Nuclear family. No support or very little support from the family. As we are moving to the new world culture of joint family is vanishing and it’s becoming only the responsibilities of the parents to look after the kid with no or less support. Although few parts of the world nuclear family are very common then they know how to adjust to it. Hired helps are too expensive and thus don’t make much sense.
Either of the parents has to leave the job and thus making the family depend on the single person earning. In maximum cases, I have seen this thus sacrifice of the carer involve and if you are planning to resume the job or work after a certain time when your kid grow to some age it becomes difficult to plan for the second kid.
Expensive cost of living and planning of better future make them have a single kid.
Pregnancy is a roller coaster ride, sometimes you will have good health and sometimes bad, mood swing and hormonal changes are very normal. Many female goes through a tough time during this phase and it becomes difficult to plan or make your mind go through it again.
Many families are not lucky to have a normal child and thus fear to have to the same problem with the second child to make them rethink on their decision.
Reasons are many but having siblings have many positive effects on overall our growth and life. I being bought up with my cousins and siblings truly understand the need and importance of it. It adds to the value and our growth. So do think if your health, finances, and life allow you to have a second baby.