I know some families who are having special need kids and being very close to them make me feel little worried about their health both physical and mental. Whenever I raise this concern to them they make me shut saying they have much more important work to do then their health. But recently I meet a lady in her late 50’s during my morning run and started talking during the conversation I got to know she is having a special kid and raising him all alone.
Few points which I understood and would like to raise here so that people don’t do the same mistake. Believe me, learning from others mistake is the most important and reliable way of making life easy when it doesn’t look like one. Take good care of your mind and body. Do whatever makes you feel happy and light.
- She is raising her kid alone. Don’t fight with your partner. Together you can handle the situation much better. With a special kid, I have seen partners fighting and blaming each other. Don’t do that, this cant be changed but you guys can make life beautiful by being together.
- Don’t be alone. Take help of the community and family. Don’t hesitate in asking help.
- Think positive. Yes, the most important thing is to think positive and healthy. Thinking has a great power and my experience says positive thinking has the power of the nuclear bomb. If you think positive you are going to win.
- Exercise daily. Yes, take good care of yourself. Take out one or half hour for yourself. Get out in the open air and breath. You have to be healthy so that you can focus on your kid’s health.
- Don’t compare. Yes, don’t compare your kid with others. We all know every kid is different but then too we do the mistake of comparing them. This will make you feel depressed.
- Meditate. Meditation has some great powers hidden inside it. Meditation will not only make you feel light but it will fill you with some magical positive energy.
I have lost around 26 kg of my weight but before I got into the flow of exercise and weight loss I have failed many times. I don’t remember how many times but what made me finally lose weight was perseverance and dedication. I always knew I will make it work but after how many times I have to restart I never knew that. I am listing few reasons from my experience which might help you too!
- I was too tired as my baby use to get up very frequently during the night. Being a new mom I was unknown about how to handle an infant and even small problems use to give me sleepless nights. As a result weight loss and exercise never seemed that important to me. So the lesson learned here is “Unless you find it important you cannot do it”.
- The baby was/is the only important and other things took a back seat. Yes, the baby is important and so does you are. Never underplay yourself. Your health is important and so you need to give time to yourself.
- I was too scared as I had gained around 30 kg of weight during my pregnancy and so from where to start was the biggest question. I failed many a time thinking I can’t do it but then I got the secret which is “start small”.
- It’s a long game and if you are thinking you can do this in a day or two, you are going to fail. Have a plan of how much weight you should lose and what is your lifestyle? So always “Plan and Execute”.
- Don’t be very harsh on yourself. If you follow a very strict plan you may not execute it for long so always have a plan which you can follow for a minimum of 12 weeks.
- Mix your workouts and make them fun. If you are planning only to diet and not following any exercise routine than keeping yourself motivated is going to be tough or rather after a time you will not follow any plan. So to keep yourself motivated and going “Mix your exercise with diet”.
My learning will surely help you to lose weight or start a journey full of health and well-being.