Whenever I think of ME word now, I feel I don’t get it enough. Being a full-time mom has just taken away this privilege from me. Initially, I thought its just a phase and this ME word is too hyped I will not need it but as the time has passed I have understood the importance of it. I can tell you this is neither a hyped word nor an underserving word. We as a mom or any individual need this space.
Why is “ME” so important according to me?
A healthy mind and a strong body are very much required to take care of your child. If I am healthy and fine then only I will be able to look upon my kid in a proper manner. This ME time gives me space for that, I get time for exercise and rewind myself to take responsibility for the full day.
I get time to think about something different other than my child and thus my mind is not occupied with the same thought around the day.
Being a human I too need a change and do something which I love too(I know I love my kid and so do we all) some hobby or something which makes us happy. We should not ignore that and it’s the most important thing to do. Always remember happiness attracts happiness!
Being a mom is a journey and your responsibility is going to increase as your baby grows, so to enjoy the journey and your responsibilities it is very much required to have some time only for self and do the things which makes you happy.
A break is very much important from our regular work and this makes ME time very much important for everyone.
If you are not having some ME time or a break from your daily routine then think about it!
When I got my first period I was knowing nothing about it and was so scared to see the blood. Yes, normally parents miss to tell their daughters and get them ready for it. My parents were missing this knowledge and because of this, they missed to get me ready for the very important phase of my life.
Every single parent had gone through this phase during their puberty and they know how does it feel? It’s an important work for all the parents to make their child know about this change. Not only body but their thinking pattern too changes, in short, it is physical and emotional changes which indivisible go through.
Most important don’t ignore this thinking you will see what can be done once menstruation cycle starts? Let your child know about this much before. Tell her the changes which her body will go through once period cycle hits her. What should be the first thing which parents should tell their kids related to this?
How do you as a parent going to start making your child ready for this coming phase in their life?
Few tips on how to make your child ready for this phase:
Strike conversation related to the changes in their life. Take them out to their favorite place or sit with them and tell them what is puberty?
How is puberty going to affect them? Tell your child your story of Puberty and how you had dealt with that?
Tell her what the importance of the menstruation cycle?
Let them know about the changes which their body will go through, also tell them about hormonal changes which they will go through. Clear all her doubts and be very patient with her questions.
Give them some book to read and clear their understanding about it. Tell her she is strong enough to deal with it.
Give her all the moral and emotional support.
It may take a few appointments before you can make her understand completely about this but this approach will defiantly help. Secondly, it will make you more comfortable thinking your kid now understand what is going to happen instead of getting the sudden shock.
I have been raising my son alone with some help from my husband, of course, I understand how difficult is it to raise a toddler and what all a parent goes through but believe me the joy of raising a happy and healthy kid is unmatched with anything else in this world.
Some points why I will intend for a second kid?
My son will have a company during his growing age. Yes, I understand the importance of siblings. I being raised up with siblings know how important this relationship is. They taught all I need to know to survive in this world. Wherever I feel or I need I have another set of people whom I can call and depend upon. This is a different kind of love. I don’t want my son to miss this aspect of life and relationship.
I understand the importance of sharing, love, and respect. These all I learned while growing with my siblings and not in the school. Of course, we get to learn them in school too but the way we learn them with our siblings is totally different and for the lifetime.
Your kid will have an extended family after parents are no longer in the world. Yes, it’s not only about us it’s about them too. My son will have an extended family when I am not around.
Life is very unpredictable and so we should always plan in advance. Having a single child is full of risk in either way. If something goes wrong with the kid then parents have no support and vice versa is true too.
Of course, finance is one of the reasons we are not planning for a second one but nowadays the government is helping and providing basic support which is important during raising the kid.
So, think before you make your mind for not having the second kid and before its too late to plan one!
Have you ever thought of having the second child? Nowadays whoever I meet or the majority of us plan for a single child with some excuses for not having the second one. I got a chance to study some of the cases and understand what makes them take this decision and their reasoning behind it.
Nuclear family. No support or very little support from the family. As we are moving to the new world culture of joint family is vanishing and it’s becoming only the responsibilities of the parents to look after the kid with no or less support. Although few parts of the world nuclear family are very common then they know how to adjust to it. Hired helps are too expensive and thus don’t make much sense.
Either of the parents has to leave the job and thus making the family depend on the single person earning. In maximum cases, I have seen this thus sacrifice of the carer involve and if you are planning to resume the job or work after a certain time when your kid grow to some age it becomes difficult to plan for the second kid.
Expensive cost of living and planning of better future make them have a single kid.
Pregnancy is a roller coaster ride, sometimes you will have good health and sometimes bad, mood swing and hormonal changes are very normal. Many female goes through a tough time during this phase and it becomes difficult to plan or make your mind go through it again.
Many families are not lucky to have a normal child and thus fear to have to the same problem with the second child to make them rethink on their decision.
Reasons are many but having siblings have many positive effects on overall our growth and life. I being bought up with my cousins and siblings truly understand the need and importance of it. It adds to the value and our growth. So do think if your health, finances, and life allow you to have a second baby.
I always thought I will get back to my work once my baby was born. Yes, I thought but now my baby is almost two years and I am still thinking. Leaving my good technical career of about eleven years was not easy but I have to do it as my child wanted me more. Most of us think this way and leave our work.
I am getting all the support which a partner can provide but still, I am not getting the confidence or you can say a punch to start my career once again. As I analyze what is the reason behind and I got a few points which are the blockers on my way. As I note them down so that if they are in your way too just knock them!
I am not motivated to start from where I left, all my colleagues are now way ahead of me and I may not accept but somewhere this is hurting me. Although taking the break and raising my baby was my decision but still. If you are thinking this then this is not the complete truth. Once you start working and in sometime you can match them.
People are less sensitive or you can say I am more sensitive to ask and show unnecessary sympathy.
Maybe what I was doing for so long for almost eleven years is now not motivating me and wants me to make or build something which motivates me and add value to my life.
I have a fear to start again. Yes, whatever I want to do whether it’s my job or my own business I have to start again with all the energy and with better time management skills.
Many thoughts are killing my energy which will push me to stand and run again. So dont think much just start. A small step will mater alot.
There are many reasons which I can come up of not starting but I just need one reason to start. Many studies shows females generally give up their career for kids and home. Its good to look after family and home but giving up the career should not be the option.
I decide to get backto my health and weightloss work and I hope many ladies get a chance to get back to work or start some thing which keeps them high and happy. At the end its about satisfaction of our work and we should not regrete not getting back to our work.